The Big Break Theory

Everyone is waiting for their big break.  That moment when someone of influence recognizes your talents and gives you that extra push you need to get you to the top.  I admit ever since I started actively pursuing my music career the idea of my “big break” had been there in the back of my mind, sparkling in all of it’s musical glory.   I would fantasize about that moment, playing out the scene in my head like it was going to be the next great Steven Spielberg movie.  Then of course I’d wake up and depressingly wonder, “When is it going to happen for me?”
I’ve lived in Nashville now for over two years, just enough time to grow up and wise up to the truth about the music industry.  No one in this town even slightly resembles a fairy godmother or director of a Hollywood blockbuster.  In fact, if you meet someone that sprinkles sparkly dust on you and tells you they can make all of your dreams come true, RUN THE OTHER WAY.  Unless of course you want to end up stranded on the side of the road, dressed in rags and sitting on top of a pumpkin at midnight.  (And trust me, I’ve been there.  It’s not fun.)

Cinderella and her fairy godmother (If only we were all so lucky)


In finally acknowledging this harsh reality, I began to realize that maybe we should stop waiting for this Big Break and start making it happen for ourselves.  It’s like hearing about girls who are obsessed with finding their soulmate.  First of all ladies, that guy you are pining over who is not calling you back?  He’s not your soulmate.  He’s a big idiot and most importantly, he’s just not that into you.  But that’s a whole other story.  What I’m saying is that instead of sitting around waiting for our soulmates to arrive, we should be working on ourselves.  Do some yoga, start knitting, go back to school, get that promotion, WHATEVER.  Just focus on being the best you that you can and you’ll see that Mr. (or Mrs.) Right will magically appear when you least expect it.


The same is true about our Big Break.  It WILL come, and it will come when we are ready.  Can you imagine the horror of winning American Idol when the most singing you have ever done was in the comfort of your own shower stall?  That would have been me back in 2005 when I first auditioned for the show.  I wanted to make it so bad, yet holy crap I probably would have had a massive panic attack during my first live television appearance.  Yet all of us, including myself, have been in that place wishing and hoping someone would make all of our biggest dreams come true while we sat there with our feet up, relaxing…and waiting.


With that said, I’m going to let you in on a little secret about myself.  I stopped waiting for my Big Break a long time ago.  I started taking action and making things happen for myself.  And looking back, I have come so far.  To this day, I have not had the help of a record label, manager, or anyone doing my public relations yet I have found TONS of success and my career is only continuing to grow.   So stop worrying.  Stop caring what people think.  Stop giving so much power to “the man” and thinking that someone else will make your dreams come true.  Make your own blockbuster movie starring yours truly, and get people excited for what will happen next.  When you’re happy and living your dream, it’s only a matter of time before you’ll get your Big Break.


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